Anger is not a negative emotion. We need it to survive. However it is also important to know that what you do with that anger will determine how you are seen by others but more importantly will affect how you feel about yourself. It is not acceptable to hurt other people. Destructive ways of expressing anger may make us feel better in the short term rarely helps in the long term. You may not know why you are angry, as anger can build up, so it’s not just about one thing. Anger can feel like a volcano or a pressure cooker and just explode. This can leave you feeling out of control. If you do some things to help you reduce the frustration you feel, then you are taking control. This means you are far less likely to explode. Here are a few things that may help you:

  • Tell someone you are feeling really angry
  • Sporting activities – skipping, running, swimming, martial arts, tennis, etc.
  • Punch something soft
  • Listen and sing along to loud music
  • Count to ten over and over again
  • Stamp your feet harder and harder until you can’t stamp any more
  • Tear or screw up paper
  • Write a letter to the universe telling it how rubbish you are feeling about this whole situation
  • Ask for time out and use this time to try and switch off by doing something completely different
  • Breathe deeply in to the count of ten then breath out to the count of 12
  • Have a store of things you can smash especially kept for your anger. You don’t want to destroy something you will regret later that gets you into trouble
  • If you are only slightly angry, it can help to do something relaxing but be careful not to cover up anger in this way as eventually it will need a vent